
Mel Fox Dhar
14 hours ago3 min read
#28 Your network is not what you think it is
Want to move faster in your job search? Here's a breakdown of how to activate your network.
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Want to move faster in your job search? Here's a breakdown of how to activate your network.

Everyone’s talking about how hard the market is right now. Tech stocks are down. Hiring feels slower. The headlines make it sound like nobody’s moving. And yet — in the last 12 months, 10 of my 24 US clients have landed new roles and the rest are still in active searches at various stages. Same market. Same economy. Same headlines. So what’s actually going on? The patterns from inside my practice I started tracking something simple: time from locked personal brand to accepted

Last week I wrote about why capable people stall mid-search — how most of the time it's not a tactics problem, it's a compression problem. The direction isn't tight enough for effort to compound. A few of you wrote back and said: I've made the decision. I know what I'm going after. It's still slow. So this week I want to talk about what comes after the decision. Because that part is less obvious than people think. And it's where a lot of senior searches quietly lose weeks. Th

One of the trickier moments in a job search looks like this: Things are finally moving. Conversations are warmer. Your name is circulating. And instead of feeling calm, you start thinking: “Should I be doing more?” “Should I broaden this?” “Am I being too narrow?” That impulse is understandable.It ’s also where a lot of people quietly derail themselves. The mistake I see at this stage When early momentum shows up, people often respond by expanding : More roles More titl

A lot of people tell me they’re networking. They’re having coffees. Catching up with former colleagues. Putting themselves out there. And still - nothing really moves. Here’s one thing worth checking: Does your network know what to think of you for? The confusion here isn't necessarily because you don't know what you want next. Nor is it because you lack experience. But because there's this tendency to hedge - and talk about everything you’ve done instead of the role or outc

TL;DR: December conversations look casual, but this is when people are the most reflective and the most willing to talk about what’s actually going on inside their teams. If you stay in intel-gathering mode instead of “please validate me” mode, you’ll get context you won’t get any other time of year. Why “Just Catching Up” Is More Strategic Than You Think December is the easiest month of the year to get someone on a call. People slow down.They look back at the year.They thin
