One or two-way doors?

In a recent coaching session, I was discussing a project I’ve been working on. And by working on, I mean hiding from – dreading, stalling and most importantly, not completing. Through that coaching conversation, I realized I was treating this project as though it had to be perfect, and since I was clearly incapable of deciphering this elusive *ideal form* I must be a failure.

Sounds silly when I say that a project can have an ideal form – but think on it for a minute. Where in your life do you hesitate because you think that there is a *right way* to do something? And rather than moving forward with a good-enough solution or multiple solutions to try out, you wait until you find the perfect solution?

The belief that there is a perfect, right answer to any question limits our creativity and our ability to see options. This approach also inflates any decision to mythic proportions as though applying for a new role or trying Pilates for a month will set you on an irreversible course. In Amazon-speak, decisions that are nearly impossible or painful to reverse are one-way doors. Examples include product launches, getting married or having a child, etc. you get the idea.

When I stepped back from my project and stopped seeing it as though a) it had a perfect solution and b) it was something that defined my worth, it was a game changer. I recognized the project for what it was – a two-way door, something easily changed as needed – better yet, something for which I could create multiple approaches. More importantly, I realized that success or failure on this thing in no way defined my worth as a person.

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